My wife and I are afraid of chaos. We both like to plan carefully the spheres of life we each take the lead on (married almost 38 years). I think we raised our kids to be anti-chaos as well. Your post made me wonder if people like us can be excessively anti-chaos, barring being obsessive. And how being open to change, which I like to think we are, differs from chaos.
After all, a certain amount of chaos or randomness is inevitable and being unprepared to deal with it is not good.
Is a little chaos like a little seasoning on an otherwise bland dish?
Change is very different from chaos, for sure. Change is natural and inevitable. Chaos is, well, chaos for the sake of chaos. Distraction and drama and mess. As with everything, you can go too far in the other direction, towards tightly controlling everything. Both seem like ways to avoid pain. I’m glad you brought it up :).
“People in recovery are masters of chaos “ -- so true. Growing up in a home of addiction, I found myself re-creating that vibe as an adult in relationships, my home and my schedule, and then throwing myself a pity party like I didn’t mastermind it all from the get go.
I lived in chaos my entire life! It is what felt "normal" to me. When there was not enough chaos I would find a way to create it-albeit unconsciously. I absolutely LOVE my life now in the non chaotic environment I create everyday with daily practices like starting my day with a TLC meeting, drawing tarot cards, yoga, art and dancing! My nervous system truly works best with all these practices in place now and so do I! I love my calm Sober Life now way better than chaos!!!
The amount of chaos we can still drum up around is overwhelming. It is so true, that quitting alcohol is just one step in the right direction. Continuing to unfold and operate all aspects of my life in healthy ways is a life long process. I know for certain it is ALL easier and possible bc I no longer have alcohol taking center stage. Thank you for these important reminders.
“I especially liked the intensity of a new job because it was all-consuming and kept me from feeling or seeing things I didn’t want to feel or see while providing the illusion of productivity and success.” 👈 this......
So eye opening. It’s so easy (I am certainly guilty) to hide under the veil of perceived success when really, I’m avoiding doing the real inner work. Then saying to
myself, I own a home, make x amount of money, married with x amount of children, as my reason for continuing on avoiding the inner healing and inevitable work to get well.
Thank you Laura! I can relate to this as I did live in chaos for many years. What if I did change jobs a few times because I actually did have toxic workplaces - 2 in a row. I thought it was me but when I talked to friends at the time, about it they agreed and said it definitely was toxic! Wheeewww! Sometimes we need reassurance from others. But get this...I just left another toxic workplace! Aaaaahhhh!!!! I cant help but think the universe is trying to tell me something! What do we do when the universe is stirring the pot? 🤍🤍🤍
My wife and I are afraid of chaos. We both like to plan carefully the spheres of life we each take the lead on (married almost 38 years). I think we raised our kids to be anti-chaos as well. Your post made me wonder if people like us can be excessively anti-chaos, barring being obsessive. And how being open to change, which I like to think we are, differs from chaos.
After all, a certain amount of chaos or randomness is inevitable and being unprepared to deal with it is not good.
Is a little chaos like a little seasoning on an otherwise bland dish?
Change is very different from chaos, for sure. Change is natural and inevitable. Chaos is, well, chaos for the sake of chaos. Distraction and drama and mess. As with everything, you can go too far in the other direction, towards tightly controlling everything. Both seem like ways to avoid pain. I’m glad you brought it up :).
Thank you and Kripalu for offering the live stream option. Can't wait!
Yay, glad that works for you.
been there, in the chaos, and it sure does feel good to (mostly) be on the other side. looking forward to part 2 because as per usual, can relate :D
“People in recovery are masters of chaos “ -- so true. Growing up in a home of addiction, I found myself re-creating that vibe as an adult in relationships, my home and my schedule, and then throwing myself a pity party like I didn’t mastermind it all from the get go.
I lived in chaos my entire life! It is what felt "normal" to me. When there was not enough chaos I would find a way to create it-albeit unconsciously. I absolutely LOVE my life now in the non chaotic environment I create everyday with daily practices like starting my day with a TLC meeting, drawing tarot cards, yoga, art and dancing! My nervous system truly works best with all these practices in place now and so do I! I love my calm Sober Life now way better than chaos!!!
The amount of chaos we can still drum up around is overwhelming. It is so true, that quitting alcohol is just one step in the right direction. Continuing to unfold and operate all aspects of my life in healthy ways is a life long process. I know for certain it is ALL easier and possible bc I no longer have alcohol taking center stage. Thank you for these important reminders.
“I especially liked the intensity of a new job because it was all-consuming and kept me from feeling or seeing things I didn’t want to feel or see while providing the illusion of productivity and success.” 👈 this......
So eye opening. It’s so easy (I am certainly guilty) to hide under the veil of perceived success when really, I’m avoiding doing the real inner work. Then saying to
myself, I own a home, make x amount of money, married with x amount of children, as my reason for continuing on avoiding the inner healing and inevitable work to get well.
Laura, it's SO cool how many different types of meetings you are offering. I love that this exists.❤️
Thank you Laura! I can relate to this as I did live in chaos for many years. What if I did change jobs a few times because I actually did have toxic workplaces - 2 in a row. I thought it was me but when I talked to friends at the time, about it they agreed and said it definitely was toxic! Wheeewww! Sometimes we need reassurance from others. But get this...I just left another toxic workplace! Aaaaahhhh!!!! I cant help but think the universe is trying to tell me something! What do we do when the universe is stirring the pot? 🤍🤍🤍
I’m still very much in the chaos.
Are you an enneagram 8? They love a good conflict! 🤠