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Molly Gorney's avatar

THANK YOU, thank you, so many THANK YOUS for writing this. For a variety of reasons but mainly I have taken courses from you in the past and always thought you were over there really only saying "hell yes" to the hell yes's in this perfect way (even though I know you tell us all the time, no gurus). It makes me feel so much more human to know that you too have intense exhaustion, middle aged woman hormone shit (the hormonal migraines are REAL), and sometimes a hard time saying no even to the really good stuff. I just don't think it can be overstated to this generation of women who were sold a story that was a big fat fucking lie in "you can have it all." The more I read or hear women being honest about this the more passionately I want to implore all my friends (and myself) to please just get off the god damn hamster wheel that no one is giving you gold stars for being on and take a big collective deep breath. Now I know you aren't my guru but I am pretty sure you said something to the tune of once, "I didn't work this hard to get sober to then put up with this shit." NO!!! We got sober to create the one wild and precious life we want. So THANK YOU AGAIN! If you post about this every week (only once PLEASE, please for the love, or even once a MONTH IF YOU NEED TO) I will be a very happy substack reader ;). Okay. Now off to fold laundry. Much love!!!

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sarah carter's avatar

Two things - first, I turned 40 last year and my periods had been ramping up over the last handful of years to the point where I was losing SO much blood each month I became profoundly anemic... this all kind of hit the fan for me in January and I ended up having a hysterectomy in April! My personal learning here has been less about the hysterectomy but more so that we have been incredibly conditioned to ignore our bodies, especially when it comes to menstrual cycles, and this was such a huge life lesson for me in not abandoning myself time and time again. Second, I can't tell you enough how much I appreciated your mention of being a slow writer. I am relatively early in my writing journey but have been putting pen to paper (and/or fingers to keyboard, ha!) consistently for a few years now and I also feel incredibly, incredibly slow in my process - and I am glad to hear I'm not alone there!

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