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Pidge Meade's avatar

This post deeply resonated with me (and I also love Somebody Somewhere - f*** Max for not renewing it and maybe it’s perfect at 3 seasons and I wanted more).

My husband and partner of 30 years has stage 4 cancer and likely has limited time left alive. For so many years I wanted to get everything from our marriage. Fortunately I realized some time ago that was a fool’s errand and that my husband was part of my family and my dear friends complete my family. To lose him will be devastating. And . .

I will still have my friends when Dave is not here. And I have also had friends die and it was as gutting as losing my parents. Maybe more so because they saw and loved all of me in a way my parents never could, even as they loved me the best they could.

What I have realized in this journey that my friends are what I have yearned for my whole life. Along with my own radical self love. They are helping me get through this time. And the more time I can spend with them - in person, on zoom, on the phone, on text and email, the more I remember I am still here and still me even as I care for my husband and face the reality of his illness and the sad thought of life without him.

Thank you for so beautifully articulating what is so true in my heart.

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Kate Wallace's avatar

I love this in a bittersweet way. I've been struggling to maintain old friendships with women in my life, because life gets lifey and people drift. It seems like I'm almost always the one making the effort to organize a dinner, or send a funny text on our thread. There was a time, several years ago, that this five-women group was solid as a rock and now it feels like dust in the wind.

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